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Separation


We were separated for two weeks this time. Yes that implies we’ve been separated before. It’s been one of the hardest two weeks. But it was much harder getting back.

I dread seeing her again. Of course I long to see her. It’s just that the last few times, it was as if she was being introduced to a stranger. I hate admitting it but I’m almost jealous of my own wife, who is loved by her always, unquestioned, constantly and completely.  I have to win her over time and again.

This time was different! She saw me at the airport and immediately smiled. She opened her arms and came to me. She hugged me for a good two minutes. Oh what joy! I was remembered. Maybe even missed.

This time was similar. It took time to realize that we weren’t exactly at that point in our relationship where we had left off. The hugs and kisses did not come that easily. She was not that comfortable eating from my hands or sleeping in my arms.

I just want you to know that I will always try my best to win you over, as many times as it takes.  You should know too, that relationships are rewarding, but they often take hard work. Slack where you want to in life, but always work hard on your relationships.

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  1. Your posts and Faking News posts have one special thing in common - the last line is the punch line... Hope the bond b/w you and your kid grows stronger...

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