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When your baby first falls down, the first reaction is to pick her up, give her some love and attention and make sure she’s not hurt herself too bad.

As she grows up, and starts becoming super active, you start warning her that what she’s attempting is dangerous. That she’s going to fall and hurt herself.

As she grows further she starts becoming naughty and always ignores your warnings. You tell her, that if you warn her that she’s going to fall, and she ignores your advice and falls, then she’s not going to get any love and attention.

This is where we are with my daughter. The reason we do this of course is to get her to listen to our experienced and well-intentioned advice. We would also love her to develop her own ‘alarms’ that tell her about the magnitude of risk she’s taking.  We do this despite knowing that this would only happen with time and experience.

However what I really want her to know, and its great if I can record this on a blog now, is that we’ll always give her the love and support she needs whenever she hurts herself, and that is the only way parents know how to love. We might ignore her hurt sometimes as a form of tough love, but it hurts us as much as it hurts her.

When you’ll really need us, we’ll be there.

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