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I recently did something bad to my back. Luckily with the thanksgiving week around the corner, I decided to take the entire thanksgiving week off and recover. The doctor prescribed a painkiller, a muscle relaxant and lots of rest.

That’s exactly what I’ve been doing this week. Its having the right effect, and I’m doing a lot better. I did feel guilty that all this resting is putting more pressure on my wife, but I tell myself that its better to contain the problem and now rather than make it a long term disability, making it a lot worse for the family.

I was feeling bad that I was neglecting my daughter. Luckily this was one area where I was pleasantly surprised! Everyday in the evening, rather than feel bad that I’m not with her, she comes to me. She asks me about my back. She will stroke her tiny hands on my head to make me feel better. For those five minutes, she’s the adult and I’m the child.

Thanks honey, this time has meant the world to me.

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